I do not remember very many instances where a kid disrupted the classroom. The few times it did happen, the kid was removed from the room. Immediately!! He wasn't given a warning. He wasn't given another chance. Out the door he went. Usually to the principal's office. And there he was dealt with. And with ALL infarctions a note was sent home to mom and dad. And in most instances (or the ones I know of) dealing with mom and dad was much worse than dealing with the principal.
|a replica of the paddle hanging in the principal office.|
In the office of my elementary school, hanging on the wall, was a paddle. I never saw that paddle used. I heard about it! We all heard about it. And that was enough for most of us. I don't think a parent would have ever thought of complaining about it. There would never have been a lawyer involved. Or a suit filed against the principal. My, how the times have changed.
While reading that favorite blog recently, this teacher was describing how a student loudly claimed that his aide (a person assigned to sit right next to him to keep him on task) had hit him. The teacher was sure that did not happen. Yet, the child disrupted the class proclaiming that it did. A discussion among the commenter's ensued. I wrote:
"I think it is the leniency of today's world. These kids have no consequences for anything! They have been raised in the era of 'time outs' Many parents are just ignoring their bad behavior. Things are so different than the days of yesteryear. I know people always say that. But it is true. When I was growing up a problem child, in the classroom, was removed to the principal's office, where he received a paddling. End of story. Most times it only took once. My grandkids talk of disrupted classrooms as the norm. Very sad"
I can tell you that my opinion is not a popular one. I didn't expect it to be. But, one "young" person proceeded to tell me that what I was saying was not true!! And he/she went on to say that it is "sick" to paddle a child. I doubt that it is "sick" to reinforce negative behavior with a smack on the ass. This commenter also felt these kids lived in fear of being paddled. Exactly! That was the point. Kind of why you follow any rule. You fear of the consequences. But whatever! It wasn't the place to point that out to this young person. Probably hasn't yet had any children of his/her own yet.
I can speak out on my blog, however. I can talk about my experiences. And what my grandchildren tell me about their experiences at school. Lenient behavior seems to be the rule, not the exception. The kids tell me about kids disrupting their classrooms every day of the week. Kids who are sent to the principal's office without any change in behavior. Teachers that have stopped teaching because they have to deal with these disruptive kids. Many parents (not all) have made it their life role to make sure their kids never suffer any type of disappointment. And if they do, then it has to be someone else's fault. Not the fault of their child!!
Last year, here in my hometown, there was an instance of a child who was disrupting the school classroom pretty often. The boy posed a physical threat to the teacher and to others in the classroom. Other parents complained to the school board about the situation. The child was labeled as a "special needs child" who spent part of his day in a regular classroom. (At the mother's insistence).The mother of this child took her story to the local newspaper. The school was not able to respond to the allegations because of confidentiality rules. This child was only 8 years old. But a big kid. The school principal was forced to call the police every time the child began acting out. I know of people who had kids in his classroom. There was very little learning going on here. And due to reasons I cannot even begin to understand, the child could not be removed from the school. Parents who I personally know who had kids in this boy's classroom, moved their children to other schools. It has been my experience that parents who give in to whiny, pouting, temper-tantrum throwing kids, usually have a whiny brat on their hands.
Kids need to be held accountable for their actions. If they don't learn this while in school will find the work place is even going to be harder for them to adapt to. Parents have to stop making excuses for their kids. People need to stop making excuses. We need to stop with the 'entitlement'. Society has changed so much. Some for the better. Some, not so much. Seeing these kinds of stories all over is sad. Why are we giving in? What can be done? I would love to hear what all of you think.