A few days ago I decided to dial back my use of Facebook. It just isn't a place I want to hang out anymore. So I kept my grandchildren and shut off all other relationships!! All of them!! If you were one of my friends on Facebook and have found that I 'unfriended' you it doesn't mean a thing! I still like you! You are still important to me. I am just cutting back!
Facebook really isn't a nice place to hang out and one can get caught up in all the crap that goes on there. I know that I have. And I don't want to anymore. I have learned a lot about society during my years on Facebook. What I have learned is:
1) People are not very nice when they are hiding behind a keyboard. Me included. Anonymity leads you down a nasty path. I'm checking out!
2) People aren't really interested in what you have to say or what you are doing. I once posted: "tired of life" as my status. I had one person (a lovely blogging friend from Canada) respond. That's it! One!
3)You only see the parts of life people want you to see. The lovely pictures of their homes, the smiling, posed pictures of their kids. Not real life. Not the stacks of dirty laundry! Not the dirty dishes. Not brats (which is who kids are 90% of the time). Fancy pictures and perfect kids can bring out the green-eyed monster. I don't like that about myself. And I don't want to play that game anymore.
4) Facebook is not very private. You can no longer keep your name hidden when people want to search for you. One reason why I never used my real name! Well, it is part of my real name! Just not all of it.
5) No one really has that many friends. Acquaintances maybe, but not real friends. That many relationships is too hard to manage.
6) My news feeds are no longer full of things I want to read. And there are way too many ads. Facebook is using us to make money! And what are we getting back in return?
7) It is a huge time waster. If I spend one hour every day (and that is a really shortsighted guess) that adds up to 15 days a year on Facebook! What??? I must be crazy! Do you know what I can do with an extra 15 days? I can read, relax, talk to my family, play games (actual board games, not Facebook games) do the laundry, clean the house, go out and meet real, live friends!
Bottom line is this: I still want you to be my friends. My email can be found right over there in my right sidebar. We can have a one on one personal conversation. I'm here anytime! I just won't be on Facebook. Well, except to see what those kids are up to. You know what I mean.