The Lesson on Keeping Secrets

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Have you ever been told a secret that you just couldn't keep to yourself? Or have you told someone a secret and they shared it? How did you feel when you heard your secret from someone whom you had not told? Terrible, right? You felt betrayed, didn't you?




It is important to keep a secret if you are told one. There is a reason that someone is trusting you not to tell.  I think you can feel honored if someone trusts you with a secret. You can feel like keeping the secret is either a burden or a delight.  I have been told some secrets in my lifetime that I wish I hadn't been told. And I have betrayed a person or two by telling their secrets.

I find it helpful to try to find out about the secret before it is told to me. Like, "is it a little secret that others will soon find out," or "is it a huge secret that I will have to keep for all the rest of my life." I always want to know before I hear the secret how long I will have to keep it! I have kept some huge secrets that I have not shared with another living, human being!

This secret should be shared!!

I also like to know if I can tell this secret to anyone else.  I told a lot of secrets to Richard when he was alive. (I tell him some now, too) But he always kept my secrets. He never told anything unless  I gave him permission to. Most of the people who told me things knew I was going to tell Richard anyway. So they almost always gave me permission to tell him. There was a time when I betrayed a friend to tell Richard a secret that wasn't okay with her to tell him. But it involved Richard's best friend. And Richard told the secret to his best friend. And my friend ceased being my friend. But I have never been sorry that I betrayed her. Some secrets are not meant to be kept. That was one of them!

If you know you aren't good at keeping secrets you should stop people from telling them to you. Then you don't need to betray anyone. Just put your hand up the minute they say they have a secret and say "I am terrible at keeping secrets. Don't tell me". If they tell you anyway then it isn't a secret they really care all that much about keeping. After all, you warned them!

Are you good at keeping secrets?

Now for weekend news:

SmallCakes

Justin and Paige came to visit this weekend. And since I just celebrated my 64th birthday on Wednesday they took me (along with Darian and Harley) out to eat at Olive Garden. This is a favorite of mine. I had a luscious Italian Margarita along with my salmon and steamed broccoli. Wonderful! Justin also brought me a DOZEN of my favorite cupcakes from SmallCakes (check them out). I am telling you these are the most delicious cupcakes I have ever eaten. The Lemon drop and Carrot Cake are my favorites. And, of course, I shared! Well, except for the Carrot Cake...I hid those to enjoy all by myself.