Some times you have to accept what you are given. You don't have to like it! But you have to accept it. What others say about you for instance. Or who your family is. Or how long you will live. These are things you can't do anything about. So accept it.
Things about myself I have learned to accept: I am tall, I have a big nose, and sometimes my family isn't all I dreamed they would be.
When I was younger I used to dream of being petite. Being tall isn't something you can change. I once had a stranger tell me that I should stand up straight and walk like a Queen. I have tried to listen to that advice.
I have a big nose. So what! The better to smell with I say. And I can smell things really good. The good and the bad things. Sometimes you have to sniff out the bad things. But my big nose doesn't make me ugly. It just is part of who I am. Like being tall.
You don't chose your family so you might as well accept them. All families have those who are quirky. Just accept them. And surround yourself with good friends. Because they might become the family that your family can't become.
In 1941 Alcoholics Anonymous adopted The Serenity Prayer as their motto. I think it is worth sharing here.
Accept the things you have lost. Whether it be a first love or the diamond from your ring (I lost mine recently) Accept the loss and move on. It's kind of like crying over spilled milk. Find a new love. Get a bigger diamond. Accept the losses.
You have to accept the situation the way it is. You can change your outlook. Maybe you just need to laugh about it. If the tire is flat you have to change it. Don't let it spoil your day.
Just accept life for what it gives you. Make the best of it! I haven't always been able to do this. The older I get the easier it becomes. Acceptance becomes easier.
This has nothing to do with acceptance but I just want to add: Always kiss your spouse and your kids good night. No matter how mad you are at them. I often kissed Richard and told him I loved him through clenched teeth. I remember being so mad at him one night as I left the house to go to work (I worked 11p to 7 a).I stormed out and drove up the street. And then I thought, "what if he died tonight while I was at work!" I turned the car around went into the house and kissed him good night. He kissed me back with a twinkle in his eyes. I told him, "I'm still mad at you but I love you" and out the door I went again.
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