We have good days and we have bad days. Hope you will follow along....A TO Z!
I have always thought the word vital
Meant a lot to me.
If you looked it up in Webster.
A picture of my husband you would see.
He was such a vital man.
He wanted to do it all.
He served on many committees.
And chaired some of those each fall.
He even took a job after retirement.
Just to have something to do.
And planned the best of trips for us
To travel the world through.
Then he began to lose his vitality
To a disease he didn't want.
It first started with the tremors
But he remained so nonchalant.
He denied there was a problem.
When we left the neurologist's office.
Even when the muscles started to stiffen.
He refused to give in.
And then he had a stroke!
The stroke took us all by surprise.
And left a vacant look in his eyes.
Twelve long hospitalized days.
Some, a machine breathed for him.
But then he fought and he came back.
I brought him home. But it's never been the same.
It's like we now are playing a different game.
And slowly, oh so slowly, he lost most function.
He fought like mad and never gave up
But we finally hit the 'no return' junction.
He feels vulnerable, and so do I.
Where this journey will take us
His eyes are no longer vacant. Of most things
he is aware.
He doesn't know the day of week.
And usually never the year.
He can't remember that he read the paper
So most days he reads it again.
But I'll take this over the alternative
Of having him gone.
That will happen soon enough.
Then vulnerability...bring it on!
Today I have to add another word.
It too will start with a "v".
The meaning is in no way blurred.
If you are a spouse, you'll see.
Those words we said on our wedding day.
The vows we took to please.
Most of us simply had no idea
We just needed to agree.
Be sure you really mean it,
When you promise to be true
In both good times and bad.
We had no idea! It can be really sad.
Be sure you know about sickness and health.
Richer or poorer, as you may have no wealth.
Until death do you part
Can take a long time
But the wedding bells continue to chime.
Did you take your vows and mean them?
Or were they just something you said
While he slipped on the gem?
Today is a good day to think about vows
Before you have to learn what it allows.