March 12, 2014
My boobs are: Ha! Ha! Talk about spitting peach tea on the computer screen...I didn't, but almost. Let me see. What can I say here to finish this? I am nearly 63 years old. I nursed a baby. I have gained a bit of weight over the years. Okay, maybe more than a bit. My boobs hang down to my waist. Well, maybe not quite, but you get the idea? They are not worth talking this much about. So moving on..
My heart is: Ah, now this is more like something I can discuss. My heart if full. It is big. It is aching. This has been a rough week here at my house. Sunday night I was sure that my husband was dying. And today he is better. We are on the roller coaster ride of our lives. And I am not exaggerating to say that it is killing me. The highs and the lows. The speed and the curves. I wouldn't wish this on anyone. Yet I know that everyday there is someone else on this same roller coaster ride that I am on. And it makes my heart ache.
One thing every woman should know: I just wrote a post on 7 things everyone should know. You can read it here. But the one thing that I think every woman should know (if she is married) is what shape is she in financially should she suddenly find herself without her spouse. Whether it is divorce, death, or long-term illness...will you be able to survive it? Every woman should know what she will do if (and when) that time comes.
My breakfast typically consists of: Now this one is easy. I am NOT (and never have been) a breakfast person. So my breakfast typically consists of several cups of coffee laced with French-vanilla cream. I will eat something around noon. And I am not going to change this late in the game. I am a nurse so I know all about breakfast being the most important meal of the day. See the problem is that I worked 11 pm to 7 am for more than 25 years. I could never figure out when I was supposed to eat breakfast. So I didn't!
I am so glad that I learned the secret to: marriage. The secret is that there isn't a secret. You pronounce it to the world when you take your marriage vows. You promise to love and cherish, in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, until death do you part. It is as simple as that. I am on my second marriage and I didn't take those vows seriously during that time. I bailed when times got bad. Sometimes you have to do that to save yourself. There are certainly times where bailing is necessary. I do not believe you have to stay in a marriage that is bad. But I do believe that you should make sure that for whatever reason you are leaving you have tried your hardest to honor your vows. I did that the first time. And I am doing that now. In doing that, I have discovered the secret to marriage. It isn't a secret at all.
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Really excellent responses this week, Paula!!!!! I really love each and every word you've shared. Your husband is blessed to have you by his side and I hope he feels better fast.
ReplyDeleteThank you Nicole! I feel blessed that we had him in our lives ALL the years before he got to where he now needs my care full time
DeleteThank you Paula.
ReplyDeleteWhy Thank you Wendy! Hope all is well at your house!
DeleteLove this and sorry to hear about your husband that would be scary. Hang in there and I hope he feels better soon.
ReplyDeleteIt is scary. Everytime that it happens. Even when I think I am ready to let him know, then I find out that I am not! But someday (and probably sooner, than later) God will want him with him more than I need him with me!! Thanks for visiting
DeleteI love these responses. I actually was talking to my hubby about your post what every woman should know and he thought they were great ideas. We moved into our house only a couple months ago and even he doesn't know where the water shut off is. He is going to find it today. :)
ReplyDeleteLook near the hot water tank! Thanks for the visit
DeleteI LOVED THIS: "...the problem is that I worked 11 pm to 7 am for more than 25 years. I could never figure out when I was supposed to eat breakfast. "
ReplyDeleteWhen I worked mids, too... I had no idea and same thing! I never knew when to sleep either...do you go home and sleep right away or stay up and??? I had no idea...it was annoying!
Once my kids left home and I no longer needed to be awake by 3 in the afternoon, I went home and stayed up until around noon and then slept until 9. But it did cut into the husband time. He really didn't seem to mind though!
DeleteYou participate in the neatest blogging things, Paula. Thanks for sharing 5 Minute Friday and Finish This...
ReplyDeleteMy heart hurts for yours. :(
You are more than welcome Julie. And there is no need for your heart to hurt along with mine. But thank you for that too!
DeleteI loved your posts this week! I'm getting married for the second time also a week from tomorrow and your words on marriage vows inspired me.
ReplyDeleteI hope your husband is doing better now!
I offer you my best wishes for your marriage. Marriage takes a lot of work and we have to make sacrifices to make it work. But you can do it!!
DeleteWhat great answers!! I can't imagine the things you are having to trudge through, but you are amazing.
ReplyDeleteThank you for saying that Angie!
DeleteHee hee hee...the boob question!!! I am so happy that my mom knew exactly what her financial situation was before my dad passed away. Her hard part was knowing where he put all of his stuff (like doctor's paperwork and general stuff). Confession: I hate breakfast. Because I often eat a late dinner (also bad) I am still usually full in the mornings. I will typically have a piece of fruit around 10 or I will make myself choke down some oatmeal. I have no excuse, I just don't like breakfast foods.
ReplyDeleteWe have so much in common Cristy! When we meet up for a visit one day we won't have to worry about "What's for breakfast?"
DeleteI am so glad too. So many people scoff when I tell them I hate breakfast.
DeleteYeah, well, Whatever!
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