Friday, February 28, 2014
Five Minute Friday
Every Friday I choose to join with a bunch of ladies who write for five minutes on one topic. We try really hard not to over-think it, or edit, or get really worked up about our writing. We just set our clock, use the prompt that she provides, and write from the heart for five minutes. Her only rule is to visit the person who linked up just before you and offer her some encouragement. So here we go. This week the word is Choose.
Someone recently asked me how long I was going to continue to do this. 'This' meaning, keep Richard at home and take care of him. Yes, it is the hardest job I have ever had. But I made this choice. And I made this choice for many reasons, but most of all because it is a promise I made to him, in front of God, at the side of a beautiful lake, in the great state of Colorado. That promise included these words: "to love and to cherish, in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, for better or for worse." This is what I chose to do. It IS what I choose.
It's not easy, that's for sure. But when you marry someone do you really think the rest of the days of your life, until death do you part, are going to be easy. Our life, leading up to the day, when we repeated those vows to each other, had already been difficult. I had been to nursing school. All the while working, as many hours, at whatever jobs I could find, to help support us. We put up with all the trials and tribulations that come with raising two boys. We purchased a house together and many cars. We were already like a married couple. Yet we hadn't made any promises to each other. In front of God. So when I stood there in that field of wildflowers, at the edge of Lake Isabel, near Rye, Colorado, with my best friend at my side, and made these promises, it is what I chose to do.
I did not know he would be sick someday. I did not know he would get Parkinson's disease or have a stroke. I did not know I would choose to keep him home with us. But it is what we have done. And I would choose it all over again.