Tuesday, November 13, 2012

11 Things a Girl should know before her first date

My last post was about the things a boy should know before his first date. I will teach them to Darian before that happens. And I will keep these tucked away here to help me with Harley when her times comes. But I hope that is years and years away.  I found this at Ooph.com. 

(my comments follow in parenthesis)

1, ALWAYS, have an out plan. Use me if you need to. Have a certain phase that you text me and we will call and get you home.

(the word HELP will do)

2. You are NEVER helpless.Say NO and then fight HARD, if you have to.
(and remember what grandma taught you about the eyes and the testicles...if he doesn't listen go for them)

3. Be YOURSELF, and not who you think he wants you to be.
(this is true no matter who you are with or where you are)

4. Have a couple of topics to talk about in case the conversation stalls. First dates can be awkward for both of you . Topics can be about things going on at school, something you are interested in, or something you know he is interested in.
(I don't see this as a problem for you, sweetie, since you LOVE to talk)

5. If there is a little voice inside your head telling you something...LISTEN.
(always.......LISTEN)

6.DON'T post your date on FACEBOOK before it happens. And, don't talk about it on Facebook after. Good or bad. Too much pressure. And TOO personal.
(this is good advice about a lot of things going on in your life. FACEBOOK is not the place to share).

7. If it doesn't feel RIGHT, it isn't. Go Home.
(call me if you need to. I'll be right there)

8.Stay in public places around other people.
(always a good idea...even if it is your 5th date. Just keeps you out of trouble.)

9.A boy should knock on your door and introduce himself to your grandparents. He should walk you to the door and the end of your date and say good night to them also. ( *I took the liberty to change parents to grandparents since that is who is in charge around here).

10. If he isn't a gentleman on your first date; he NEVER will be.
(don't go out on a second date. Save yourself the heartache. You can't change him)

11. Don't overdress or wear too much makeup. Just wear what you feel comfortable in. He asks you out because he likes you the way that you are.
(or that is what we are hoping)

And just to add a thing or two from your wise old granny; you don't owe him ANYTHING just because he took you out on a date. SEX is not for the first, second or fifth date. SEX is between a man and a woman who love and are committed to each other. And none of the lies he will tell you about sex are true. It won't really kill him if he can't relieve himself. Believe me. You are smarter than that. You don't have to do anything to get him to like you except smile, talk and have a nice time. Any other pressure is not coming from a very nice guy.


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