There is sexual harassment and then there is sexual harassment. I am very sick of hearing about it this week. How about you? For some of these women I have true empathy. And for some of them I think it is all bull! What do I think this is doing to our country? I think it is desensitizing all of us to "real" sexual harassment.
I came of age in the 1960's! A time of the 'sexual revolution'. A time when many, many women were finding their voices in the political world. Don't we remember the arrival of Betty Friedman on the scene? And the birth of 'the pill'? I remember hearing about the burning of bras in relation to women's rights. And thinking at the time "it took me too long to finally have a reason to wear a bra that I was surely not going to now burn it." But I always knew I had the right to speak up. Not only for myself but for those who I felt might not be able to speak for themselves.
And I did speak out on many occasions. But I didn't find each and every unwanted or obscene remark made to be something that needed me to speak out about. Sometimes it was only necessary to tell the person to "bug off" or ignore them. That doesn't seem to be something anyone can do anymore. Is it the pull of the limelight which is making so many speak out now. Why wait thirty and sometimes forty years to speak out. That is the part I don't understand. And why continue to allow it by being weak and unable to speak up! No one else is going to watch out for you as well as you can watch out for yourself!!!
Even as a young girl I had the ability to speak out in defense of myself. I remember working at a restaurant on main street when I wasn't yet 16. The owner was a 'nasty old man.' We learned very early on not to get caught alone in the kitchen with him. We knew what he liked to do or say. One day I was caught in the kitchen. He didn't touch me. But he made inappropriate comments to me. I knew they made me feel uncomfortable. I, also, knew I wasn't going to put up with it. I was 15! I told him what I thought and I took off my apron and threw it on the floor. Then I walked home. My mom called him up and told him what she thought of him. And that was the end of it. We didn't feel the need to file a police report. We didn't feel the need to call the local newspaper. And I wouldn't have done anything about it today except I am sick of women in this world not being able to take a stand against these kinds of men.
I wonder how many more women Harvey Weinstein would have been able to harass, molest, or whatever you call it if one of these women would have sang loud and clear to the world the minute it happened. Anglenia Jolie and Gwenth Paltrow do you feel at all responsible for all the gals he assaulted after you kept quiet?? I am not questioning whether Harvey is guilty. I'm sure he is guilty as hell. What I am questioning is the silence of ALL these women for ALL these years. Come on women! Speak up!! If a man invites you to his hotel room he is probably up to no good. If a man touches you in inappropriate places, scream it to the world. If it means you have to be compliant in order to keep your job then I think you need to be thinking about what kind of job you are wanting.
I am not writing this to say these things didn't happen. I am sure they did. But quit waiting 30 years to tell about it if you want to be believed! I don't doubt that Roy Moore is probably a dirty old man. But where were these allegations when he ran twice for Governor of Alabama. Where were these women when he was appointed, not once but twice, as a Chief Justice in the Alabama Supreme Court. If a 32 year old man was harassing my 14 year old daughter I would have been screaming about it long before he decided to run for the United States Senate. Wouldn't you?? And I would never vote for Roy Moore for a variety of other reasons! He is a nut job, plain and simple. In my opinion.
Many of you know I am not a Republican nor do I support the current President of the United States. But this is not how we should fight him. Hell, he got elected with allegations of sexual harassment. We even heard his very own voice on a video tape telling Billy Bush what he could and did do to women because of his 'celebrity power.'
Bottom line what I am trying to say is: Stand up for yourself. Don't wait 30+ years to report something that makes you uncomfortable. You will be believed (or Not) by those who want to believe you. But you will look far less unreliable if you speak out NOW.