Tuesday, February 21, 2017

Love Warrior-A Book Review and My Honest Opinion (Beware)

Below is the review written on Barnes and Noble. Mine will follow!

Just when Glennon Doyle Melton was beginning to feel she had it all figured out—three happy children, a doting spouse, and a writing career so successful that her first book catapulted to the top of the New York Times bestseller list—her husband revealed his infidelity and she was forced to realize that nothing was as it seemed. A recovering alcoholic and bulimic, Glennon found that rock bottom was a familiar place. In the midst of crisis, she knew to hold on to what she discovered in recovery: that her deepest pain has always held within it an invitation to a richer life.
Love Warrior is the story of one marriage, but it is also the story of the healing that is possible for any of us when we refuse to settle for good enough and begin to face pain and love head-on. This astonishing memoir reveals how our ideals of masculinity and femininity can make it impossible for a man and a woman to truly know one another - and it captures the beauty that unfolds when one couple commits to unlearning everything they've been taught so that they can finally, after thirteen years of marriage, commit to living true—true to themselves and to each other.
Love Warrior is a gorgeous and inspiring account of how we are born to be warriors: strong, powerful, and brave; able to confront the pain and claim the love that exists for us all. This chronicle of a beautiful, brutal journey speaks to anyone who yearns for deeper, truer relationships and a more abundant, authentic life.

I read this book as the February book selection for the on-line book club I joined. These kinds of books are usually not my cup of tea. This book was hard to read. I always wonder what makes a book a best seller. I think maybe it is because so many people will relate to what the author has to say. I did not read her first book Carry On, Warrior I don't know that I will either.

This book shows Glennon at what she calls rock bottom. She is struggling with recovery from addictions: alcoholism and bulimia. She has married the man that she was with during those times. Never a good idea, in my opinion. She had become pregnant at the times of these addictions. They chose to have an abortion. And  when she became pregnant the second time she and Craig married. Already off to what I would call a 'rock bottom' start. After she had three kids and a "what she thought" a stable marriage she discovers that Craig has cheated on her with 'real' women and pornography. This book is about how she finds herself and heals her marriage. In the end of the book they find 'happiness'. 

But they don't really! Just before I read the last few pages of the book I discovered that not only do they end the marriage (just as the book comes out) but she decides to announce to the world she is in love with soccer star Abby Wombach. What disturbs me about this is not the fact she is "gay" (although I question it) but the fact that she announced on her blog in August of 2016 she and Craig were separating and she announced in February 2017 that she and Abby were engaged. WHAT??? I say we haven't heard the last from this author on how messed up she is! I just don't think I care to read about it anymore. 

And just for the record I am not opposed to gay marriage. I am not opposed to gay people. I don't believe in the lifestyle but it is not for me to judge them. I have friends who are gay. I have friends who have gay children.I have friends whose spouses left them to participate in gay relationships. I have seen the pain and agony caused by this. The questioning of both the spouses left behind and their children.

My hope for the future of this world is for people to figure out who they are before they bring kids into the world. It's really not that hard. Kids are a privilege, not a right. I can only wonder what pain and suffering is brought to children who wonder if they really know who their parents are. And if the parents don't know who they are how can they lead children through some of the most difficult years of their lives.

This book will get **, just eh okay!

I will step off my soapbox now. Keep your comments and responses nice and respectful. Because I am just keeping my blog honest and real.  

20 comments:

  1. Sounds like one to give a miss.

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    1. You might like it Wendy! It just wasn't my style!

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  2. I'm going with what Wendy said, definitely one to miss. I too wonder what makes a book be a bestseller. I often read bestsellers and wonder "really?"

    bettu

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  3. I won't be reading this either. I think we all know people who are gay, either friends, family members of friends, or even our own relatives, at least I do, and like you, I believe in live and let live. Learning that the parent you thought you knew is gay is a heavy thing for a child.

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    1. Yes, my friend who was married to and raising two kids with "the love of her life" found out he was gay when they kids were 12 and 10. Very hard for them to understand!

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  4. If this were walking down the street, I'd probably find myself crossing over to the opposite side. Your last paragraph is spot on. Do what you will, with who you want ... but stop hurting the children!

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    1. I think this is true of so many things parents do to their children, don't you?

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  5. It's interesting how people attempt to heal themselves. I guess she does it through writing. This helps some people. Doesn't mean I want to read it.

    Okay, the gay mother having children... You say that people should figure out who they are before they bring children into the world. Ideally, yes. But, when is the best time to have children? When the mother is young. And many of us have no idea who we are then. If we wait until we know who we are, we're in our 40s or 50s...

    Living and learning along the way. Still, the book doesn't seem like something I'd enjoy.

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    1. That is why I said they should figure it out first. It's not like having kids just happens!! You can (and probably should) plan for them! I knew who I was sexually far before I was 40 or 50 and I think most of these people did too. But you are right. We all live and learn along the way.

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  6. I have always questioned why we require a license to fish when any fool can have kids. I would have no interest in reading that book just from the B and N description.

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    1. I thought the B and N description made it sound more interesting than it was. That is how I am so often fooled by these kinds of books! My new policy is to download the sample and decide after reading it if I really want to read the book (meaning buy the book).

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  7. I think I'll pass on the book, too. It sounds a lot like the first one she wrote. I appreciate when people are honest about their struggles, but I don't have a desire to read through another memoir by the same author. Sad to hear all about the upheaval in this family's life.

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    1. I am sad for the kids especially. As she attempts to find herself she is damaging the kids! In my opinion!

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  8. I had not heard of this book, but I spend a large share of my reading time in old lit. I give you credit for finishing it. I would have had to skip the book club meeting.

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    1. I think the meeting will be fascinating to see what others think. I'm pretty 'old-fashioned' in my way of thinking about sexual identities!

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  9. I had added Love Warrior and Carry On, Warrior to my reading list but have now deleted them. They don't sound like my cup of tea at all. I agree with everything you said above; and yes, the children suffer most of all. I have a friend whose husband left her and their two young girls, and believe me the proof of the harmful effect of that is quite evident many years later :(

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    1. Yes, I have totally seen that same harmful effect. But they (parents) would tell me if didn't effect them at all! Maybe Carry On, Warrior was better. But I'm not interested either!

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  10. I read it and was non-plussed by it. I didn't hate it but I didn't love it either. The one thing about it is she is laughing all the way to the bank as people are seeming to love her message.

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    1. That is kind of how I felt. Not love. Not hate. But she has made a lot of money for sure. And I see one in the future all about coming out as a lesbian too!

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