Wednesday, April 13, 2016

Don't Take The Lies to Bed With You!

The A to Z Challenge takes us on a journey through the month of April. We write Monday through Saturday and take Sunday off. Hence, 26 days and 26 letters of the alphabet. Come in and see what snippet I'm sharing with you today.


As we come to the L in the road! Ha! Ha! Well, I thought it was funny. One of the things I most dislike in life is lies. I rarely tell them! (Except when it is really, really important to be kind instead of truthful). And I don't do well when I am being told a lie either.

When the kids first came to live with me, lying was often a way they protected themselves. It was a habit they had both fallen into. And it wasn't an easy habit to break. Once upon a time I told them, while I was in nursing school, I had learned to read people pretty well. Like having 'lie detectors' inserted in my eyes. To this day, Darian will tell you that I told him I had lie detectors inserted in my eyes. "Would I lie to you, child? I've asked. And he responds "Yes!" Then he proceeds to remind me about Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny. And the tooth fairy. And then there is the Sandman. I don't see that the same as lying. But kids do sometimes. And when they are smart enough to bring it up, during an important lecture on lying, I am not really sure how you deal with it! Some 'lies' are good lies? Some 'lies' are fun?


Amen Baby!
Anyway, I am hoping that if they don't learn anything else from their old granny they learn  most of the time the truth is the best. When you tell one lie you usually need many more to cover that one. And it goes on and on. Sometimes I wonder if some of the people I know even know that they are lying. Some people believe their own lies.


Honestly I have uttered these words









Do you have one thing that you hate? Something that you insist that your kids NEVER do?



32 comments:

  1. Always better to tell the truth; no matter how painful it might be :)

    And it is better to tell the truth because then you don't have to remember what you thought you told as the truth :)

    betty

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  2. Now that my children are very adult, they feel they can now tell me the truth about things they lied about when they were kids. And you know, at this point I'd rather not know the truth. They sure pulled the wool over my eyes on one too many occasions.

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    1. Mine too Lyndagrace! Grrr! But, we did that to my mom too!!

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  3. I don't consider Santa lying as I always point out St. Nick was a live human being. The Easter bunny, etc...I never really stressed too much as an important part of whatever feast we were sharing. My pet peeve is people who are unkind and/or cruel in their words or actions. I am happy to say that all of my children have grown into adults who go out of their way to help those in need.

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  4. I am a terrible liar. I only tried a few times with my mom and I gave myself away every time. ( like when I skipped school and the school sent out a postcard of my day absence). She would say "you know you cant lie to me" and I would break down. LOL. After that, I knew not to try again with her or anyone else. Its a huge pet peeve of mine too!

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    1. Darian thinks he is such a good liar. But he's not! He is the worst!!

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  5. I think this is because you care so much about people. My friend is the same way. The WORST thing you can do is lie to her. I personally cannot lie. It hurts. If I don't want someone to know, the best I can do is avoid the subject. However, I married a yarn-spinner. Usually for jokes. I tell my friends and family to only believe about 85% of his facebook posts. (You can find his blog at http://transformednonconformist.blogspot.com if you want a laugh.)

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    1. Thank you Red! I will check out your husband's blog. My husband was a yarn-spinner too!!

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  6. You weren't lying about Santa Claus et al. You were introducing them to our cultural myths. Would they have been happier if they had nothing to believe in as children?

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    1. That is a good way of saying it, Liz! I will have to remember that when it comes up again.

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  7. My boys were always told not to lie to me. Then again, I never tried to convince them there was a Santa Claus (to the dismay of my M-I-L), the tooth fairy and least of all the Easter bunny. Yeah, I think that is lying, though I know I am in the minority.

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  8. I want to live in a trusting relationship. Lies don't foster that, so I always asked Angel, and then Goodnight to be honest. Some mistakes do not warrant consequences, just gentle guidance. Dishonesty brings about its own consequences . . . eventually and it's really hard to change the perception one has of someone after lies. But, now what's all this talk about Santa Claus??? ;-)

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    1. A trusting relationship brings calm to everyone! LOL! I can't tell you any lies!!

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  9. Lying is the one for me.Emily was three years to learning the very real value of truth. Laura is still on the road.

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  10. I'm with you, I really, really don't like lies either. I just realized that I lie to my dogs, I go: "Mommy will be right back, don't be upset!" And then I take off for the better part of the day. I think they are wise to me by now though.

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    1. Poor babies. But they love you anyway!!

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  11. My daughter considers Santa to be a lie. St Nick may have been a real person at one time, but he does not come into your house and does not give you gifts. We really didn't do Santa, the Easter Bunny or the Tooth Fairy in our home and my kids, now adults, don't feel like they were cheated out of anything.

    My daughter appreciated the story of Santa and enjoyed all the Christmas programs with him in them, but knew he wasn't real. Just like Bugs Bunny. I did have trouble not getting her to spoil it for other children though.

    To answer your question, lying was a big no-no in our house also. My daughter was more than happy to oblige. She would cry as she told me the truth, but she always said it. My son, on the other hand, was a different story. He lied even when there was no reason to.

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    1. We did all of those at my house. I would have been the one to have felt cheated had we not done them. Probably the kids wouldn't have! Boys have been my problems with lies too!

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  12. I agree, I HATE lies...and yet how many of us tell little lies to spare someone's feelings?
    "Does this dress make me look fat?"
    "Umm...no."
    LOL
    julihoffman.com

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    1. That's the kind of lies I don't think of as lies!

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  13. Lying is a big one for me too! I HATE it! I've always told my kids that the worst thing they could do is lie to me. My mom always said that, "if you don't have your word, you have nothing". So true!
    ~Katie
    TheCyborgMom

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  14. I was just 'talking' to another blogger the other day about lies!
    Years ago I prided myself on being an accomplished liar. Truly, I don't know what I thought I was accomplishing ... the so-called 'victory' felt so hollow.
    Nowadays, duplicity sickens me.

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    1. LOL! Maybe that is how that special grandchild of mine feels!!

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  15. My stance on lying, both with my children and with the residents at the halfway house where I work, is that it is just energy efficient...it takes so much more work and effort to tell lies than to the tell the truth in so many ways. I think it is also not cool in terms of ethics, morals, and even being able to establish real connections with others, but the energy efficiency thing really sells honest for me and, I hope, for at least some of the people I've preached that theory to. :)

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    1. It does take more effort. And most of the time you don't get by with it. So why bother!

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