Saturday, March 5, 2016

Where Did They Go?

Today I cleaned out my feed reader. I use Feedly! It isn't nearly as good as Google reader once was but it works.  I just felt it was time to  clean out some blogs I really don't read anymore. I just skip by their daily posts. Or weekly. Or monthly.

You know what I discovered? I had a few (quite a few, in fact) blogs that people haven't written a single word for 8 months, 10 months, a year. What becomes of these people? I don't know. I wish I knew.


I miss the people whose lives I used to be entwined with. My good friend Lisa, a nurse like me, just up and quit

blogging. I miss reading about her exploits in her nursing career. I wonder if she made it to Puerto Rico. I wonder if her husband made it through school. How are the cats and dogs! If you are still here reading drop me a line and let me know how you are doing.

Another friend, who is also named Lisa,  lives in Australia. She had much turmoil in her life. She had just became a nurse's assistant. I miss her poetry.

Then there is Lisa and Cristy. Two wonderful ladies I met through a 30 day writing challenge. I keep up with one through her blogging about clean eating. And the other I follow on Instagram. But it just isn't the same. I miss hearing about their everyday life.

I met a nice gentleman who was in the Army and he wrote such wonderful pieces from a man's point of view. Then, bam, gone. Wonder what he is up to. And that man from Greece who was moving to England. Gone!


Another was Katy! Loved her photography. Bam, gone with the rest. The blog she was on has been taken over by another. And it isn't the same person. How does blogger let that happen?


Do you find yourself making really good friends through blogging and suddenly you realize they just aren't there anymore! Life can be like that sometimes too! I am thinking of all the friends we used to have. Those who slowly left when Richard got sick. Those who tried to stick  it out! And those I never hear from anymore......

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  1. I know what you mean. I've moved through various blogging platforms. Started on yahoo moved to multiply and ended up here on blogger. I lost friends along the way. Sometimes that was because they chose a different platform when we had to move. Sometimes they just disappeared. Sometimes they gave an explanation. Worst case was when a friend posted on the person's behalf to explain they had succumbed to cancer. But at least we knew. The not knowing is the hard part.

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    1. It was the same for me Wendy. For the most part I was able to keep up with them but have lost track of a few over the years and just haven't been able to hook up with them again. It is very sad.

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  2. I've had a lot over the years of blogging that have stopped blogging and you do wonder what happened to them. I have also known of several bloggers that they left instructions if they should pass on to have their family do an entry to let others know about that for closure. I would think if I was going to give up blogging, I would want to make an announcement for that, so people know, and then also eventually either delete my blog or at least change it to private. So many orphan blogs I run across that haven't been updated even in years; I don't think I would like that myself for my blog.

    betty

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    1. I should leave instructions with my family so they could make a post about my demise should it happen! I find that too, Betty when I am roaming around the blogging world.

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  3. I am still reading your blog, even though I don't comment as often as I did when I met you in last years AtoZ Challenge. This was a thoughtful post, Paula. I have often wondered about bloggers from previous years who have dropped blogging or moved. It is always sad to read about a death of a blogging friend. Hope to see you back on the AtoZ List. This will be my 5th year and I am not as prepared as I was last year at this time. Guess I'd better get with it. Hope to see you there.
    Sue at CollectInTexas Gal

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    1. Hi Sue! I don't know if I am doing the A to Z this year. I just can't get excited about a theme. But I will be out and about reading blogs. Good to see you!!

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  4. Yes, I have wondered this, too. Some blogging friends I was able to find on Facebook, but they don't really post. They like this or that, or once in a blue moon "share" a cartoon or video, but that's about it - no more heartfelt sharing, no more sense of the rhythm of their days, no pictures of their garden or latest craft. I miss it, and them!

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    1. I have had people tell me that Facebook has replaced blogging. I don't like hearing that

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    1. Yep! We miss these people, don't we?

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  6. I have often wondered what happened to a blogger I followed who doesn't blog anymore. I see their faces in my followers lost, but they are long gone from the internet. I did find one of them through a search. They had a new blog but it was private for invitees only. I've thought about stopping my blog on occasion, but if I do so, I would certainly let folks know.

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    1. I don't want to ever quit blogging. But who knows. And like you, I will tell people, I hope!

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  7. I am sure there were times when people thought I stopped blogging - my writing gaps are sometimes extended. There have been times when I thought about stopping, and if I ever did I would post a "goodbye."

    I think the need to blog is fed by different needs for people and that is why some bloggers go dormant or stop completely. This topic of yours (once again) will probably spark a blog post on my own blog. It is a very thoughtful topic. Thank you for sticking with my blog even through my absences.

    I used to use a blog catcher for blogs that I follow, but it was too easy to skip reading entries. So now I follow blogs that can send an email into my inbox - that seems to work best for me. Except when someone stops blogging or their blog gets hacked and they start a new one ... and I start to miss their posts in my inbox and I have to back track to see what happened to them - and back tracking relies on my memory of the blog name that is absent - so, yes, I have probably lost a number of blog friends one way or another. And it is sad now that I think about it.

    I will say that I can only keep up with about 10 active blogs or less (maybe 20 blogs if they are less active) - and when I had a blog catcher I probably had about 50 or more blogs I followed - and I would be behind on hundreds of blog posts and and then the task was so daunting that I would delete them all and start again with only the current posts. So that method had its problems me. But now that you got me thinking ... the fact that I have lost some blog friends just because their email didn't make it into my inbox and my old faulty mind has simply lost track of them to check back. I need to rethink this. I may not write in my blog often, but I do like to read them.

    And I need to post another piece to my blog. I suspect it has been a few months for me too.

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    1. That's why I like a blog reader. Otherwise I would have lost you for sure! I am glad you came back to blogging! Can't wait to read your post about this subject!

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  8. I think that people enter and leave our lives as we need them or they need us. I too wonder what happens to bloggers that I follow when they just drop out of sight. Many of them will leave a type of farewell post, saying that they are concentrating on other areas of their lives. Blogging does take up a lot of time and when your life's circumstances change, as they did for our friend, Lisa, then you move on to other chapters. I hope that I am able to stay as involved with my blogging now that Frank is retired (he didn't get the other job). We will see...I am looking forward to our next adventure and hope to be able to blog about it and share it with all my blogging friends...Phew....I think I just wrote a whole post LOL

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    1. Once again, Wendy, I am sure you are right. I can't wait to see what the next chapter brings for you guys! Life's circumstances can sure change our blogs as well as our lives!

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  9. My life has been stopped in its tracks on occasion, and blogging was not important. So far I've always returned.

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    1. Been the same for me Joanne! If it wasn't that I needed an outlet I'm not sure I would blog.

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  10. Thank you for addressing this, Paula. I HATE loose ends!

    Like you, I'm still following several orphaned blogs. One, in particular, haunts me to this day. Taryterre never used her real name, and made references lately to the poor state of both she and her hubby's health.
    Doesn't bode well on my imagination!

    One of my blog buddies (Jack at Ship's Log) one mentioned a blogger's daughter making a posthumous update on her dad's blog: "Ernie has left the building."

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    1. That would be one way of announcing it! I belonged to a group once and the son knew how important the group was to his mother. He came in to announce her death to us. Much appreciated!!

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  11. It's just the way of the internet. We Came, We Seen, We Conquered, We Left. Over the years I have done Yahoo Clubs, turned to Yahoo groups. Where i taught myself HTML coding for web page design and then had online class rooms to teach others. Had a teenager move in and he steered me to Facebook where I have and now chat with many friends in Messenger. But they also come and go. Through the years I have one 85 year old friend save storm from the start and we email weekly. Meet more since I left my home and move south, those make me wonder if I left to quick. Time rolls on and we will see where we end up, but it won't be blogging. Tried that and just didn't take

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    1. I love blogging. But it took a long time to build my following!! I always followed along with Flatlands. What the heck is making you think you left too soon??

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  12. I wonder about some people too...some I know just got bored with blogging or had nothing to say...I cannot imagine that! I am thankful for those who remain:) I know two of my favorite bloggers died:(

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    1. I hope I am never bored or run out of things to say....

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  13. I'm still around, having a massive head cold right now, LOL, but I'm still here. I still read your posts, but often don't have the spoons (http://www.butyoudontlooksick.com/articles/written-by-christine/the-spoon-theory/) to respond. We did get to Puerto Rico--it was amazing, even more than the previous trip. Work is still work. I love my day job. Still in touch with the daughter, which is a joy. Still in love with the hubby, forever and a day. Keep writing, Paula...we'll keep reading.

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    1. Oh hello Lisa!! (sang in my best Louis Armstrong voice) I am sorry for your cold. I just got over a big one myself. I think of you and Joe often. I feel you have a great love there...just like Richard and me. Happy you made it to Puerto Rico again. I am glad you are still in touch with your daughter. Hope you get to see her soon. I'll keep writing and maybe someday you will write again too!!

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  14. Yeah, I'm on Feedly too. And people just stop blogging sometimes. One day they're there, and the next they just aren't. There's a blog hop at some point where people talk about the blogs they miss. I forget when it is.

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    1. I wouldn't be able to remember some of their names. More of the recent ones I would. But now I have deleted them from my reader!!

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  15. Yes, it is so disappointing to me when people vanish without a word in the blogosphere. I think many times they don't intend to quit, it just happens as they go another day without writing.

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    1. You know what!!! This post got the attention of one of those who I was missing and she left a comment!!

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