Friday, September 4, 2015

Why oh Why?





 
 Have you ever thought about why you blog? I have given it some thought over the years. I have been blogging since October 9, 2008. That seems like so many years ago. The day I started my blog Richard and I were empty nesters. And we had been for a few years. In fact, we had 3 biological grandchildren, 2 we called grandchildren because they belonged to the mother of two of our younger grandchildren and 3 other 'littles' that we considered to be our 'adopted' grandchildren. (Later, there was another 'adopted' born into the family). A total of nine! 





Darian and Harley December 15, 2008
 
I wanted to blog because I like to write. I didn't plan for it to become a journal of my life. But sometimes God has other plans for us. It was in December of 2008 my life changed forever. That is when Darian and Harley came to live with us. A huge change. A wonderful thing. A big worry. Life changing!! Yes, to all of the above.

I am not a perfect blogger. Because I am not a perfect woman. I hope you didn't think I was. I don't want to shatter any images you may have had. I don't live in a perfect house. I have piles of laundry. And dirty floors. And the kitchen counter if full of dirty dishes. I am a pretty lazy person for the most part. I didn't used to be. It's what I have become. I am tired! I have changed my perspective on life. Perfectly clean houses don't mean perfect lives!
 
 
The day before his stroke. At the Kansas State Fair
I was working full-time back in October of 2008. I continued working full-time until Richard had a stroke in September 2011. After he had the stroke, once again, our lives changed forever. I could no longer work outside the home. I needed to be home with him full-time. It was the beginning of the last 3 years of the life of a wonderful man. The life of the man who was at the center of our family.

I blog because I want to. Not because I have to. I don't make any money off my blog. It is a place to share memories. The good, the bad, and the ugly. It's about record keeping. I can't begin to tell you how many times I want to know when something happened and I can find it on my blog. I don't write to receive comments. They are a bonus. A big bonus. I love all of my blogging friends. I have a couple who have been with me from way back in 2008! And they still occasionally leave comments.
 

I am not a huge fan of most other social media hangouts. I have a Facebook. I have 19 Facebook friends. All I want. All I need. I go to Facebook to see what my grandkids are up to. And to check into news. And the few friends I have there. Facebook is filled with drama. Who needs it? I have an Instagram. I post pictures of my grandkids. Not many followers. And I follow a few. I like to see their pictures. I have a Twitter. I, to this day, do not understand much about how Twitter works. And that is okay. I like my blog best for interacting with people. The best kinds of people blog. Don't you think?

Blogging shouldn't be hard work. It should be fun. I did not major in English. I am thankful for spell-check. I am terrible at punctuation. I am wondering if there is such a thing as punctuation-check. If there is, I need it. I am not a grammar cop. I need one, that much I will admit. And it won't bother me if you point it out to me. I am still learning. One of my favorite things is to keep learning.

Why do you blog? Care to share? I'm waiting to hear!
 


26 comments:

  1. I started blogging because it was a therapy assignment to find a creative outlet for when I am stuck when journaling. Now, I rarely journal, but I do blog daily.

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    1. I think that blogging is good therapy too. You were one of my first commenters Kwizgiver!!

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  2. I blog because--I stumbled on some blogs four years ago, and sort of stumbled into the genre. I read them, had no idea how to follow them, or the protocol of commenting, or anything. I asked a couple of the bloggers I read early on, and, I am sad to say, was politely and not so politely dismissed. I wanted to record things I knew and remembered about my parents and grandparents, for my children to have. One day I came home with a kitten I found, and I wrote a bit about him for the first post. I carried on for a year, then unexpectedly found myself in charge to grandchildren whose mother had spun out of control. No lack of material from then on.

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    1. I love your blog Joanne. And we have a bit in common, don't we?

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  3. I think I started blogging more as a novelty than anything else. Unfortunately, I was a very slow learner ... floundering this way and that before finding my 'authentic' voice. ('vs' trying to please others or worse, imitate them.)
    I don't post as often as I'd like, but I can't imagine going a day without visiting my precious friends - even if it's a hasty peek via my cell phone. Come to think of it, I'm more attached to 'my' little community than most people I see on a regular basis!

    PS - BTW, I'm pretty glad to know you're not perfect!

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    1. Ha! Ha! Not perfect by a long shot! I agree with you about blogging friends. They are who I am more attached to as well.....Love you Myra!!

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  4. OH you scared me half to death!! I thought you were going to stop blogging, and that is something I could not bear!! I have been reading your blog every day, but have been whisking through things as I am trying to get ready for my in laws coming and dealing with stress. They arrived today.......so far I am not ready to take basket weaving classes yet.... So no comments but prayers going up for you everyday while I am scurrying about and thinking of you! I blog because I find it relaxing for the most part. I enjoy sharing photos and keeping it as a journal. I always hope my words will cheer others up, or encourage them. I love to get comments, that is a wonderful blessing, and I treasure the friendships I have as a result. I also get to pray for others, and I love to do that ( thought I think my praying is not as eloquent or as passionate at times as it should be. I just really enjoy blogging, and can't wait to get back into it soon! Muah....hugs!

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    1. No. Ellie I am not likely to stop blogging!! I love to have a place to meet with my friends. Wishing you a peaceful visit with your in-laws!!

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  5. I started blogging because back when I was a kid I wanted to have a newspaper column like those in the lifestyle section. The kind where it wasn't about the news but about random mundane everyday things. And when blogging came around, I found the perfect way to do that without becoming a journalist.

    Your blog seems pretty coherent to me. I am a bit of a grammar nerd, and I rarely see anything here that bothers me. Your punctuation seems fine.

    Wow, someone with fewer Facebook friends than me. I thought I barely used FB. (Of course, many of my "friends" I found near one of my high school reunion times.)

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    1. Thank you Liz. Coming from a teacher that makes me feel better. Ha!Ha! I am not that into Facebook. I have found a lot of drama there!! I love that you chose to blog instead of becoming a journalist!

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  6. I started blogging back in 2005! Ten years!! They were just starting to become popular to do, before Facebook, lots more people were blogging. I blogged for the community, meeting people from all over. Working at home, it was my "social" outlet. I used to joke with hubby that if we traveled across country, there wouldn't be many states I wouldn't know someone from blogging :) I did take a 15 month blogging break one time because of things going on in the family, etc., and other breaks, but I'm always drawn back to it. I blog for fun and like you to keep a journal of things. Not so much these days, but I used to go out and look for new blogs to read. Right now, other than during A/Z time, I'm perfectly content with the blogs I have on my blog roll.

    I'm with you about Facebook; too much drama. I use it mainly for family and to keep up with a few friends.

    I think you write beautifully myself!

    betty

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    1. Thank you Betty! You are one of the best!! The best of the best! Wow! 10 years. That is a very long time. I am glad you still blog

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  7. I started to blog in 2005, the year I turned 50 and started to ride motorcycles. It was a way to share freely with my friends on how I was doing and hopefully let others know if I could do it, so could they, in anything. That's when I took on my nickname from a baby Katy Did-- Know All That You Dream Is Doable. Anyway, I ended up loving it and loving the people I have met over the years on the road through the blog. It has certainly been an adventure.

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    1. I love how you came up with the name of your blog!! And you didn't start riding motorcycles until age 50!! WoW! I figured you were a lifelong rider.

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  8. I started blogging 5 years ago and this past July had my 5th year anniversary. On that date I also blog about why I started a blog and how the blog changed from what it started out as, and finally how I had changed over that time. At the time I was a full time caregiver and I used the blog as an outlet of sorts and it supported my need to have a space that belonged only to me. Now that my caregiving days for mom have passed the need to blog every single day seems to have passed as well. But I still find myself sitting down to write at times so there must be another need that is being filled by blogging. I honestly don't know what it is, but that blog of mine is still active so I guess that is all that counts.

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    1. I used mine as a place to vent during the caregiving years too! I'm glad you still blog too!

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  9. I blog because I am....LOL. I am so glad to be part of the blogging community. I have made so many great friends, the best of which is you.

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    1. LOL. Love it! I blog, therefore I am! I'm glad I am one of your great blogging friends!

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  10. Good morning! I guess I blog for pretty much the same reasons you do. And because I love letters...so bloggimg is like writing a letter to friends and family (new and old) for me. And also a way of being social (in an admittadly unsocial sort of way, I suppose...)

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    1. I never thought it much like letters. But you are right! It is like writing a letter!

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  11. Hi Paula - I started blogging to learn more about what was going on the internet world and by being in it and involved ... I got more than I bargained for - but I've loved it. I too started after my mother became seriously and then my uncle ... and after my visits to them both - in a Nursing centre or hospital, or at home - but not v active ... the blog was my relief and my contact with the world.

    I was amazed at how many great friends I made ... the advantage being someone was always there - they might not know what was happening this end of the world .. but at least things were easier here, than at home with family who weren't that positive to me or helpful ... such is life. So I blog - and I've learnt loads, educated myself ... realised that I can write - though that surprised me.

    You've done so well .. and you cared so much for Richard, and you loved him dearly til his end and we knew that from the posts you've written. The kids are great - and you've both been generous with your time for them and helping them all get on with their lives ... I'm delighted those two are still with you ... Darian and Harley seem to be really good kids - so pleased for you .. cheers Hilary

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    1. I totally understand it coming from a caregiving world. It save a lot of us to blog. Thank you for all of your kinds words Hilary! I am happy to have met you in the blogging world!

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  12. I started blogging to post about my dogs mainly. but then in morphed into me commenting about anything that I happened to strike my fancy. I also like to post about animal welfare issues because that's important to me. i don't blog as near as often as I should. I just haven't made it a priority. But I try to post at least once or twice a week. I actually forgot my Notable Quotables this past week! Thought about it on Friday and said "Oh Well. There's always next week...." I try not to beat myself up because I don't want the blogging to become a job. I do wish I would be a bit more active and will try to be better at blogging. I admire people who blog every day or several times a week. I try not to compare myself to others because that can end up taking me to a very dark place (I'm not good enough, etc...all those thoughts that are senseless).
    I'm glad to have found your blog. I don't visit all the time but when I sit down to surf around I always end up checking in with your posts.
    Michele at Angels Bark

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    1. Thanks Michele! I'm happy I found your blog too. I like reading about your dogs and your causes. I try to blog at least a few times every week

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  13. I agree that bloggers are the best people! ;) I started blogging in 2005. Our first computer. On AOL dialup. Found their "Journals". Read a few and though it interesting. At the time I was a stay at home mom, looking for a "hobby". Wanting to connect with other Christian women. Wanting to share some of the life lessons God had taught me. I took the plunge and started my blog, Life & Faith in Caneyhead . I've had periods of being more active and less active as a blogger. I've focused more on the "life" and then turned around and focused more on the "faith". Today, blogging is first and foremost for me. To write, express myself. It is secondly a way for me to connect with people from all over the world. I can't imagine a day I'd want to give it up.

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    1. WOW! You have blogged for a long time! That is what I like about your blog. You are open, honest, and tell it like it is!!

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