Life's Lessons: A to Z Challenge
The first time I was married I was only 18 years old. 18 years, 8 months, and 12 days to be exact. Too damn young! Why didn't my mom stop me. Oh she tried. And my brothers. But I was 18 years old and I knew what was best for me. Yeah, right! I didn't listen to anyone and I got married. To a sailor. Who was on board a ship for the entire time he was in the Navy. And out to sea almost all of that time as well.
Why did getting married so young mean so much to me. It was what girls I knew did. Most of the girls in my group got married when high school was over. I went to a business school after high school. But I also got married the first leave that happened after he completed his boot camp. The one that came about just before he shipped out to the Indian Ocean. It is true when they say: a teenager is not emotionally, financially, or any otherwise ready for marriage.
The Life's Lesson that I will pass on to you here is this. Wait at least until you are 25 (XXIV) for marriage. Or that is the age I would pick if I were as smart then as I am now. I would finish school. Live on my own. Wait until he had been out of the Navy. Not have a baby at age 20. My young husband finished his military career and came home to a wife of four years and a 2 year-old child he had seen once. And he had changed tremendously. Picked up some bad habits. Was a different person. And so was I. Short story is that after struggling for 9 years and 3 pregnancies later, we divorced. I became a single mother raising two young sons. And it was hard.
It may have been just as hard if I had gotten divorced later and the kids were older. But I just think the mind of a teenager is not developed enough to know what is good for them. I shudder when I think of Darian soon turning 18 and getting married. I know how young he is. I know how not ready he is for a long-term relationship. I know how much hard work goes into marriage.
Take my advice....XXIV is a much better age to get married.
Would you agree with this? What do you think is a good age to get married?