Life Lessons: A to Z Challenge
This is a lesson that I have both learned myself and taught to others. Life Is Not Fair!! Can I get an Amen, here? We all know that life is just not fair. It can't be. We are not all equals so therefore we cannot all be treated equally. And that will leave many of us (me included) feeling that life is not fair.
I can remember learning this lesson pretty early in life. It is an expression that my mom often said in answer to me whining, "that isn't fair." And I said the same thing to my kids while I was growing them up. And I say it now to my grandkids. Because it is true. Life is not fair!
When I was a small girl, around the age of 7, my dad committed suicide. I thought that was pretty bad. I didn't know another kid anywhere who didn't have both parents alive. Divorce wasn't really running rampant yet in the 1950's. Parents just stayed together for whatever reason. When I figured that out I didn't think it was fair that I didn't have a dad. And it wasn't. But life isn't always fair. Remember I told you that.
Later when I went to school with kids who all wore the latest style of shoe and my mom bought my sister and me those hideous, ugly saddle oxfords, I sure didn't think life was treating me fair. But my mom said they wore well and lasted longer. So we got a new pair in September, every school year, until high school. And we wore them. Or nothing. Life is not fair!
When my mom was older and couldn't take care of herself at home any longer the decision was made to place her in a nursing home. I visited her one morning in the hospital. She was very weepy about not getting to go back home. She said, "it just isn't fair." I remember smiling at her and saying "sometimes, Life isn't fair." She smiled and said "and sometimes you just have to be careful what you teach your kids." But she was right then. And I was right then. And I am right now.
Life is not fair!
Don't you agree?