Have you ever been told a secret that you just couldn't keep to yourself? Or have you told someone a secret and they shared it? How did you feel when you heard your secret from someone whom you had not told? Terrible, right? You felt betrayed, didn't you?
It is important to keep a secret if you are told one. There is a reason that someone is trusting you not to tell. I think you can feel honored if someone trusts you with a secret. You can feel like keeping the secret is either a burden or a delight. I have been told some secrets in my lifetime that I wish I hadn't been told. And I have betrayed a person or two by telling their secrets.
I find it helpful to try to find out about the secret before it is told to me. Like, "is it a little secret that others will soon find out," or "is it a huge secret that I will have to keep for all the rest of my life." I always want to know before I hear the secret how long I will have to keep it! I have kept some huge secrets that I have not shared with another living, human being!
|This secret should be shared!!|
If you know you aren't good at keeping secrets you should stop people from telling them to you. Then you don't need to betray anyone. Just put your hand up the minute they say they have a secret and say "I am terrible at keeping secrets. Don't tell me". If they tell you anyway then it isn't a secret they really care all that much about keeping. After all, you warned them!
Are you good at keeping secrets?
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