Thursday, April 9, 2015

The Lesson It's Important to Be on Time

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We have a saying at our house: "If you are on time, then you are late!" That is just how I feel. I cannot stand to be late anywhere. And people who are late just annoy me. I do not understand why people are habitually late. I used to have a 'person' who came to our house for holidays meals and she was NEVER on time. It didn't work to change the time to suit her. It didn't work to change the time for later and not tell her. Nothing worked. She was never on time. We finally got to where we just started the meal when everyone else was there and she could start whenever. But it still annoyed me.



Why is it hard to be on time? During my working years I liked to get to the hospital early. Make coffee. Chitchat with co-workers. Clock in. Start working. If you are early, then you have time for all of that. Otherwise you are always trying to catch up with yourself.

I recently read something about George Washington and punctuality. It was said that he felt being on time was a way of showing respect to others and he therefore expected the same respect to be shown to him. I knew there was a reason I liked George Washington. It is about respect, isn't it.
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I think  being punctual shows  you are honorable, dependable, and it strengthens your integrity. I taught my sons to be punctual. And my grandchildren are learning.

How do you feel about being on time? Is it an important virture to you?

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38 comments:

  1. I try to be on time. Sometimes traffic... Well, that and I'm just not a morning person. But if it's later in the day and I say I'll be someplace at a specific time, I'll be there.

    I remember going to see a friend for lunch. He arrived a half hour late. When he realized I was on time, he explained that all his other friends were always late, so he didn't expect me to be on time. (He's since moved away, so I don't see him any more.)

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    1. That's crazy! To me anyway. I can't imagine that someone would expect someone to be late! Oh the differences in people is what makes the world go round.

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  2. So glad to know I'm not the only one! Those who can't (or won't) respect others' time annoy the **** out of me. Like you used to, I like to craft my weekday mornings so I arrive at work early enough I can sit in my car and catch up on social media, visit the ladies room, make coffee ... then be ready to Start Work at 7:00.

    It's a miracle we're still friends, but a long time ago I traveled from Texas to the Caribbean with a lady whose idea of being 'on time' coincided with our crossing the plane's threshold as the flight attendants were preparing to secure the cabin doors.

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    1. Oh my! People who are late cause me more stress than it is worth. But I think traveling with you would be so much fun!!

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  3. I'm with you, Paula, I like to be on time, a few minutes early in fact. The biggest gripe I have with people being late is to church. Now I get that perhaps parents with young children might have the occasional late time, but it seems like everyone thinks its okay to be 5-10 minutes late. My sister in law and her side of the family were always late; used to drive my mom crazy. They would say Thanksgiving dinner at 1 p.m. and then have things ready by 3 p.m. My mom got wise and always had a light snack because food never got served close to the time that it would be ready.

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    1. Oh me too, Betty. And especially the ones who are late to church who want to sit as close to the front as they can get. So then they are interrupting the entire service as they are trying to get to their seat. If you are going to be late, sit in the back!! Richard's family were always late too! He, however, was very punctual.

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  4. Yes I was always brought up to see being on time as good manners - however, I must also confess that sometimes things do overtake me and I can be a few minutes late sometimes certainly when meeting friends - but I do make sure I apologise. Special Teaching at Pempi’s Palace

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    1. I think there are times when circumstances of life happen and we can all be late. But chronic lateness is unforgivable. As far as I am concerned!

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  5. I agree. When I was working, I too went in early, just to get myself settled before the students arrived. I knew lots of people who made it in just before the bell and then were constantly expecting others to do the things they hadn't had time to do.

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    1. Exactly. And it was those very people who annoyed me!

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  6. I like being a tad bit early. However, when I lived in southern Arizona I once took a half-day seminar on cultural differences and learned the difference between monochronic and polychronic cultures. It is fascinating and it answers a lot of questions I have about how others view time. I'm including a link here for anyone interested or you can Google it yourself. Americans are definitely monochronic and have very little patience for anyone who isn't. It doesn't mean it is right or wrong ... but learning about it certainly made me more appreciative of how others view time. http://thearticulateceo.typepad.com/my-blog/2011/08/cultural-differences-monochronic-versus-polychronic.html

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    1. Interesting article. I say...."When in Rome..." Thanks for sharing!

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  7. I have never been late to work . . . ever. And I started working in 7th grade.

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    1. I was never late to work either...not once in 30+ years of working!

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  8. I'm a punctual person. I've learned to cope with people who are chronically late. Its not easy. But I manage.

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    1. I don't let it stress me like I used to. But I still find it rude if one is late!

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  9. I always like to be on time. I try to be an hour early anywhere. When i was working i always liked to get there at least a half an hour early. Plus i was never to sure how traffic will be so i had to plan on that too. For doctor appointments i am in hour early you never know they may take you back early if not there is usually paperwork.
    I always hate it when people are late. I had a co- worker that was late all the time and i was so stressed out i had 23 residence to take care of and they were also upset as well. They knew i was by myself and some of them voiced there concern for me.
    Even are daughters mom is late everytime we pick her up. We give her a time when we will be there to meet her and then she is sometimes an 15 to 1 hour late. I always get upset she knows i have a baby that shouldn't be out all night.
    So yep hate it when people are late. But in the end they will see what happens later in life. Have a good day. Enjoyed your posts.

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    1. Oh the doctor's office. I should write a post on that! What is wrong with those people that they can't stay on time. EVER. I understand emergencies. (I am a nurse) But there isn't an emergency every single time I go. It is simply over scheduling and arrogance that makes them think their time is more important than ours.

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  10. I definitely prefer being early to on time or late. You are far more relaxed!

    My first serious boyfriend was ALWAYS late for our dates. It took me quite a while to realize what a red flag of disrespect for me this was. I am so glad I didn't marry him. God had much better plans!

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    1. Exactly! I'm glad you figured it out

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  11. Unfortunately I am bad. I run about 10 minutes late. I start out on time, then always....late.

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    1. And yet I still love you. But what would happen if you started 10 minutes earlier?

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  12. I hate being late and I hate when others are late....I think it is a power struggle for those like your friends who don't care what you do to accomodate them they are going to be late just because they can.

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    1. A power struggle! Hmmmm you could be right Wendy

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  13. Hi Paula - it's part of life sadly ... I'm always on time (usually and hate being late), while I have one brother who really is close to the bone ... but we get there .. a right mix ... cheers Hilary

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    1. If it works for you Hilary there isn't a problem!

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  14. I try to be punctual and always tell myself I'm not late until I am actually late, so yes, I quite often find myself apologising for tardiness. My wife insists on us being early for everything, so much so that we often have to hang around outside places for up to half an hour because we are so early.
    Here in Greece people often have a very flexible attitude to timekeeping. You get used to it and just learn to work with the fact that Greek friends might be an hour or more late. Having said that the ferries leave on time!

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    1. I cannot imagine having friends that would make me wait an hour or more for them!! Or would I ever make my friends wait for me. But the say different cultures are different

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  15. I try hard to not be late. But I usually end up that way, as people in Nova Scotia tend to be very laid back, and even worse, the traffic is brutal. Then there is the almost constant road construction or snow! And no short cuts, oh my goodness, in Ontario I could often times take a back road and a short cut and be somewhere super fast. That is so hard to do that here! It was much easier to not be late when we lived in a city and not in the country. ( But I would much rather live in the country!)

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    1. Ellie...do you really think it has to do with how laid back you guys are? I am a pretty laid back person but I hate being late. And people who are 'always' late are just an annoyance to me. I would forgive you though. Once or twice maybe :)

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    2. I should clarify that!! We have found a few things out the hard way after moving from Ontario. The first thing was that no one here is in a real hurry. Driving, walking, checking out groceries in the store, people are slow! They don't seem to respect those of us who like to be early or on time. It is to the point where a lot of people here are just plain lazy. It wasn't like this in Ontario ( the opposite actually, it was too fast!) and we have really had to adjust our attitude, because most people are late here. I don't really like it, it makes me anxious to be running late, but I have to bite my lip and deal with people who are constantly late for things I planned. People look at me funny when I am on time!

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    3. LOL...you know what they say..When in Rome, do as the aRomans do. It will be okay!!

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  16. You would be annoyed with the Husband and me. We are sometimes 10 to 20 minutes late to social engagements . On good days, we are 5 minutes late. We have no sense of time and traffic anymore, having been self-employed for a lot of years and not living in an urban area anymore. So, we get stuck in traffic a lot. Fortunately, our friends forgive us our flakiness.
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    1. You are so right...I would be annoyed. I don't understand people having no sense of time. I am glad that your friends can forgive you. I just find it a bit disrespectful. But each to their own.

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  17. I think it is important to be on time. I don't attach as strong feelings about it as you do. But I also do not like, nor care to be anywhere more than 5 minutes early.
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  18. Strong feelings I have! But I can be flexible at times

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  19. I hate being late. Hate it! It pisses me off when my wife or kids press that button when I'm ready to go. To me, it's rude to make other people wait for you, which is why I get offended when other people make me wait. Your time is no more important than mine is, don't act like it is.

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    1. I hate it too Jeff. Good to see you again!

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