Tuesday, October 7, 2014

Tell It Like It Is Tuesday

A new Tuesday. The first Tuesday in October. The beginning. We all like beginnings. I will like beginning again. As soon as I get through being stuck in the past. For now that is what feels good....

I finished reading What Alice Forgot  by Liane Moriarty. What a roller coaster ride it was too. I went through all kinds of emotions as I read this book. For some reason it brought back so many memories of my own marriage. The good and the bad. And how I try to cover up the bad parts because Richard isn't here anymore. And I only want to remember what was good.....but that isn't a book review is it? Here is what Barnes and Nobel has to say about this book



"Alice Love is twenty-nine, crazy about her husband, and pregnant with her first child.

So imagine Alice’s surprise when she comes to on the floor of a gym (a gym! She HATES the gym) and is whisked off to the hospital where she discovers the honeymoon is truly over — she’s getting divorced, she has three kids, and she’s actually 39 years old. Alice must reconstruct the events of a lost decade, and find out whether it’s possible to reconstruct her life at the same time. She has to figure out why her sister hardly talks to her, and how is it that she’s become one of those super skinny moms with really expensive clothes. Ultimately, Alice must discover whether forgetting is a blessing or a curse, and whether it’s possible to start over…"

*Kirkus Reviews

 As I began reading this book I found that Alice had lost her memory of the last ten years of her life...she'd forgotten her children, her friends, her sister's life, and how much she hated the husband she was getting ready to divorce. The story takes us through her trying very hard to unravel her life. And it seems she really isn't liking the woman she has become. She hasn't been there for her sister who is going through horrible fertility problems (we learn about this through letters written by the sister to her therapist) and she had no idea that her Grandma, Frannie, (who isn't really her grandma) had a past life where she was in love with a fiance who died just weeks before the wedding. We learn this story through a series of letters that Frannie writes to her dead fiance. (Much like I am writing letters to Richard). She has a boyfriend and a new lifestyle that is so unlike what she believes herself to be that finding herself becomes a necessity. She has lost her best friend, one she doesn't even remember meeting, and that seems to be what everyone thinks was the beginning of her UN-raveling. I am positive this book was sent to me to read for a reason. It touched so many pieces of my life. I bawled my way through it. Those great howling sobs of a grieving widow. Although, Alice had not lost her love to death, she had lost him. What I wouldn't give to get to do the last 10 years of my life over again. And hopefully come out of it better. Alice you rock! You got it right! If you haven't read this book you must.

14 comments:

  1. Wow, great review. I am going to order it up.

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  2. This one sounds good, Paula. Writing it down to read so very soon!

    betty

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  3. 'Alice' is going on my list right now!
    I'm sometimes prone towards books and film that provoke tears and anguish. Not sure why; but suspect I need to experience ALL sorts of emotions in order to really feel alive.

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    1. I don't know that this one will make YOU cry but it sure touched me...hope you like it

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  4. Interesting to speculate that if Peggy were to die, I might be better off if I could take a pill and forget about her. It sounds like it would be cruel to excise the dearest person in my life from my life in such a way, but it might enable me to survive something that men of my age don't seem able to survive all that well.

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    1. Oh there is no way I would want to take a pill and excise Richard from my life. But I might want a re-do on the last 10 years. I think that you are right that men don't seem to survive as well

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  5. Paula - i'm pretty sure I read this one because the titke and plot both sound familiar. I am always struck by how a "right" book can come along in a timely manner, especially when it causes cleansing of grief or sadness. Gut wrenching to go through, but ultimately an assist in working out troubled times.

    Interesting your comment about Richard and wanting to ignore the rough patches and only remember what is good. I remember when I got divorced - for a couple years afterwards - feeling like no one wanted to hear that I had once loved my husband or that there were good times. It seemed like I was expected to speak ill of him and only talk about the bad things that broke us up while denying we'd ever had any good years.

    Isn't that odd how we stereotype divorcees and widows or, at least, make generalizations that might be quite restrictive?

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    1. You are so right. Richard was such a good man, that is true. But there were so many many things that were hard to live with and would at times just piss me off. But those just don't seem to matter.

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    1. It really wasn't....I think it was just my mood that made it deep.

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