How many of you have teens in your home? Being patient with a teenager is nothing like being patient with a toddler. Or with an invalid husband. Teenagers sigh and roll their eyes. And sometimes stomp and slam doors. When I lost patience with my young toddlers it was usually because they were screaming or making a mess. Or refusing to take a nap. And, as most of you know, I am now a grandma. And I am raising two teens. Ages 15 and 13. And believe me it takes a lot of patience. And sometimes I am just not very good at it. So I LOSE my patience.
The things that cause me to lose patience now is when at the last moment you find out they need something for school. Or they forgot to tell you that they had an appointment somewhere. Or the calendar of events have changed. Or they are moody. (Usually that is SHE who is moody) But the 'eye-rolling' will get me every time. Or the muttered, under the breath, "whatever."
What I want to do as I practice patience with my teens is to nag less. Listen more. And learn right along with them. What I will NOT do is allow them to be disrespectful or sassy. So while I am practicing patience, they are learning how NOT to push my buttons.
I think communication is key. Hard to do sometimes, but key. What advice do you have for me?