Wednesday, May 1, 2013

The Story of My Life...in 250 words or less!

   Day 1, Wednesday: The story of your life in 250 words or less (or one paragraph... no one will be counting your words... probably)


      Hello! My name is Paula. I was born a long time ago in the early 1950's to a lady named Pauline and a guy named Chas. This couple already had 3 other kids. An older son, also named Chas, and twins named C. and F. This wasn't the healthiest of families, but it is a well-known fact that you do not get to chose your families. My dad worked in the oil fields and he was an alcoholic  My mom was a stay-at-home mom with four kids (all two years apart) . And two years after me came the baby, a boy named. R. We lived in a little town in Kansas, in a low-income housing project, and were pretty much happy kids. We did all the things that other kids do. We played and went to school and pretended that nothing different was going on at our house. Truth be told, we were different than other kids. My dad drank. And he could be mean. And he would get arrested occasionally  And my mom yelled. And she could be mean. But she always protected us kids.
 
     Life went along like this until I reached the ripe old age of 7. That is when my life forever changed. My dad committed suicide. And my mom was left with 5 kids to raise on her own. We lived close to her parents, my grandparents, and they helped. I did NOT like my grandmother. She was mean and nasty. And didn't like all of her grandchildren. Some she liked better than others and it was obvious. But we all went along and managed to grow up with few scars. (Well, that might be questionable by a therapist, if I were ever to find the courage to go to one.)

     I graduated from high school and like most girls at the end of the 1960's, I got married. Big mistake. But from this unhappy union I had two sons. Their names are Daniel and Justin. I had a baby daughter between the boys who was stillborn. She is my angel baby, waiting to be reunited with me in Heaven. After a nine year disastrous marriage I was divorced from my first husband. Soon after I met husband number Two. Richard. You will see me writing about him often on my blog. Richard is 18 years my senior and I feel like I have grown-up with him. I went to nursing school after I met him and we moved in together for 17 years to raise my sons and start my career. In 1996 we married. My sons have grown and left home. The oldest has had a rough life of drugs and jail and rehabs and drugs and jail and back to rehab. We are currently raising his two kiddos; Darian, 15 and Harley, 13. We also have one other grand daughter from our youngest son. And we have an 'adopted' daughter who has 4 kiddos giving us a grand total of 9 grandchildren varying in ages from 3 to 23.

     My life now is spent caring for Richard, who has end-stage Parkinson's disease. We have recently become Hospice patients. So along with Darian and Harley, I care for him at home. It is tough. But it is what we all want.

     Now there you have it. Not in 250 words or less. More like 500 words. But who can get their life down to 250 words? And as you will see, I don't in any way try to sugarcoat things. This is the story of MY life.

44 comments:

  1. Paula, it's nice to "meet" you. Thank you for sharing your story. I love bloggers who don't sugar coat things. I look forward to coming back to read more of your blog x

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    1. Thanks Tina. I look forward to checking out your blog also

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  2. Paula that was so beautiful. Sometimes 250 words just does not do justice to the stories that need to be told. I'm so glad I discovered your blog (via the #blogeverydayinmay series :))

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  3. I love it when I read "real" voices. Look forward to reading more of your words.

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  4. Good to know you more. Guess all these challenges give us more insight to each other's life.

    :)

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    1. That is what I love about them. I get to know people on a more personal level. I have good friends in the blogging world.

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  5. <33 i have an angel baby waiting for me too, my first.

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  6. Who can write in 250 words or less when you have so much to tell?! Thank you for sharing your story! I look up to your mom, you and siblings for making it through such a tragic time together! And now you have such a beautiful family of your own!!

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    1. And my own dysfunctional family!

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  7. Thanks for sharing, Paula...i finally signed in too!

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  8. Thanks for sharing Paula! Your family is beautiful! 9 grandbabies/kids/adults :) is a true blessing!

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    1. Yes, I have many blessings. Sometimes I just have to squint my eyes to see them all!

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  9. I love getting to know you more. I also have an angel baby. I think you are a wonderful person. I am happy to learn more about you.

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  10. You have an interesting life, to say the least.

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    1. I have always said that there has never been a dull moment

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  11. Oh my, the story of your life reads like a book with twists and turns on each page. It's a wonder how we never know what someone else is going through and also a reminder of how much we really don't know about people, so it's not always good to assume things until you get the full story -- and even then, you still don't know unless you were there in person with him or her.

    It's hard to imagine a grandmother disliking her grandchildren and even having the audacity to make it clear to those children. You've done your life story justice in however many words was needed to tell it! Your children and grandchildren are lucky to have a mother/grandmother who cares for them and extends that caring to others by working in hospice and nursing.


    ~Nicole

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    1. My goal in life was always to be the best grandma any kid could want! Just to spite her! Ha Ha

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  12. I don't know if beautiful is the write word but that is what I got from your post. The fact that you still find beauty and joy in life is amazing. Thanks for being so honest and sharing your story.

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    1. You are welcome Aleshea (love your name) It isn't always easy to find that beauty and joy. But I try!

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  13. Thank you for sharing your story, I am glad you went over 250 words because I found it very interesting. You should write a book about your life, I love how positive you are about even negative situations.

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    1. Ha Ha I don't know if I am really that positive. It takes me awhile but I try to find the positives most of the time. I have thought about writing a book

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  14. Hi Mrs. Wow I'm impressed at your story. People tend to try to present things in the best light possible denying the bad. I am glad to meet you. If I had my grandmothers alive I'd wish that at leas one of them was like you. Maybe you could be my honorary grandma :) one more to add to your brood

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  15. Having a child with drug problems is really rough. Luckily mine finally grew out of it, but not before she lost her daughter. I wish you luck with him.

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    1. Thank you Cat! It is hard. It is his kids that we have taken custody of. I don't know if he will outgrow it. He is almost 42 years old now!

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  16. You are such a strong woman, taking care of your family with such love and dedication is admirable.

    thank you for telling the honest truth.

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    1. Youare welcome. I just feel that I am doing what any woman would do!

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  17. Thanks for the comment on my post.

    I can't believe the stuff you went trough, I wish you all the best!

    XOXO

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    1. THanks. It has just made me stronger!

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  18. Thanks for visiting my post and leaving such a sweet comment. Just want you to know that your post has tears falling down my cheeks. I am praying right now that you feel the Lord's presence during such hard times and He gives you the strength you need! Thank you for sharing your story!
    Eva @ Snappee Turtle

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  19. Hi! I think it is amazing that from such a difficult start you are now surrounded by such a big, and loving family. Your grandchildren sound lovely.
    xx

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    1. My grandchildren are okay! They are the reason I keep on going

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  20. Life is definitely not all sunshine, rainbows and lollipops...I love the honesty, though I'm sorry that you've had to deal with so much. Love that you're able to focus on the positives (beautiful grandchildren) and continue in this sometimes harsh world.

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    1. You are right about life! I don't know that I deserve the praise of always focusing on the positive. That is much harder to do sometimes. But I do have beautiful grandchildren. They are my rising sun every morning

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  21. hi Paula and thanks for dropping by my blog today. I appreciate your honest style in writing and I admire you for your positive approach to a difficult life. My uncle has Parkinson's and so I understand a little of what you're going through. But you obviously grew to be lovely out of less-than-lovely circumstances. Your children, husband and grandchildren no doubt adore you xx Phyllis

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    1. I feel like all of this is not deserved. I am only doing what any woman would do.

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  22. You're an impressive woman, Paula! Everything you have done to take care of your family is so wonderful.

    Kristen's latest #BlogEveryDayInMay post: Everyday in May: 250 Life Story

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    1. Thank you Kristen. I think anyone would do what I am doing.

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