Friday, October 31, 2014

30 Day Gratitude Challenge

I am going to join my friend Alison, who writes as the Kwizgiver at What if this is as good as it gets?, in a gratitude challenge the month of November. I, like her, feel that I have so much to be thankful for but I have forgotten and have been taking things for granted. Maybe you would like to join us.

Halloween 2014

Kitty Paige
Mouse Harley

A Liebster

 My wonderful friend Wendy, A Day in the Life on the Farm, nominated me for the Liebster Award. I am going to graciously accept itHere are the rules, as outlined on her blog. 

1. Post 11 random facts about yourself.
2. Answer 11 questions asked by Wendy.
3. Nominate bloggers with less than 200 followers to do the same.
4. Let those bloggers know that you chose them.

Random Facts About Myself:

1. I quit coloring my hair when I placed Richard in Hospice. I am now pretty grey.
2. I am lazy.
3. I like watching reality TV: Survivor, Big Brother, The Amazing Race, Sister Wives are some of my favorites.
4. I don't believe in psychiatry.
5. I do believe in ghosts.
6. There are very few overhead lights in my home. 
7. I love calf liver. Now that Richard is gone I probably won't cook it just for me.
8. I have not weighed myself in the past 8 years. And I don't need a scale to tell me I have gained a lot of weight.
9. I hate any form of exercise.
10. Summer is my favorite season.
11. I am not into pets. The only pet we own is a goldfish and a 'sucker' fish.

Wendy's Questions for me:

  1. What is your favorite cocktail? My favorite cocktail is an Italian Margarita.
  2. Who is the most famous person you ever met in person? I saw Robert Redford in Las Vegas while he was filming Indecent Proposal. I didn't actually meet him. Although my friend and I stalked him a bit.
  3. What is your biggest accomplishment thus far in your life? It has to be taking in my two grandchildren. Although most of the credit for their being here belongs to Richard.
  4. Do you prefer a large party or a small intimate party? I much prefer small, intimate parties. With very good friends.
  5. What is your favorite food? This is hard. I like food. All kinds of food. The richer and more fattening the more I like it. I adore lobster.
  6. What is the weirdest food you have ever eaten? I've eaten lots of strange food. Kangaroo pie while in Australia. Also ate Emu while there. I have eaten alligator and rattlesnake and squirrel and rabbit. 
  7. What is the last book you read? The Confession by John Grisham
  8. What is your biggest fear? I have two big if mice and the other is flying. But my really biggest fear is not being here until my grandchildren are grown and on their own.
  9. If you could have any job in the world what would it be? I would love to be a gardener. There is nothing better than mowing the grass or pulling weeds. I love digging in warm soil.
  10. Who was the last person you hugged? I hugged Darian and Harley. Everyday. Several times if I can.
11.Name one thing about yourself that you absolutely love. I absolutely love the depth in which I love. I give it my all. 

My nominees:

1. Kwizgiver at What if this is as good as it gets?
2. Myra at Respice, Prospice
3. Betty at A Bench with a View
4. Inger at Desert Canyon Living
(and yes I know she has more than 200 followers but I am a rebel and I want to nominate her anyway).
5. And all the rest of my readers and followers whom I love so much!

My questions for you nominees:

1. Why do you blog?
2. How did you chose the name of your blog?
3. What makes you laugh out loud?
4. Are you a morning person or a night owl?
5. Favorite TV show and why?
6. What do you want to be when you grow up?
7. How do you cope when things are not going well in your life?
8. A Favorite quote?
9. Your favorite food to snack on when no one is around.
10. What is your favorite social media?
11. What is one destination that you dream of traveling to?

Please jump in and lets all get to know each other a bit. It's fun!

Thursday, October 30, 2014


This is part of my 31 Day Five Minute Free Writes challenge within a challenge. I will be linking up with 31 Day Challenge at The Nester's as well as at Heading Home. For a list of all my letters you can go here.

Today is the last day of the challenge. It has been heartfelt on my part. Cleansing, cathartic, and sad. I have learned a lot about grief in the past 31 days. And what I have learned is that I have a ways to go. I may never get over grieving the loss of my husband and my best friend. And that will be okay.

My dearest Richard:

The day you left me here all alone I didn't want you to go. But it wasn't our choice, was it? You had to leave. And I had to stay. That is the way God had planned it for us. I am so glad to have had the time I had with you. I have no regrets. I hope you don't either. 

We were a good pair. We were like two puzzle pieces that fit so snug together. Like peanut butter and jelly. We were like summer and sunshine. Like winter and snow. Like hot and cold. We were each a separate person but together we were gold. That is what I will miss the most. No longer being part of a couple. No longer a wife. Yet still your sweetheart.

Until we meet again,


The Confession

I just finished reading The Confession: A novel by John Grisham.
I have read quite a few of his books (The Pelican Brief was my all time favorite, so far). Here is what the overview said at Barnes and Noble:

An innocent man is about to be executed.
Only a guilty man can save him.
For every innocent man sent to prison, there is a guilty one left on the outside. He doesn’t understand how the police and prosecutors got the wrong man, and he certainly doesn’t care. He just can’t believe his good luck. Time passes and he realizes that the mistake will not be corrected: the authorities believe in their case and are determined to get a conviction. He may even watch the trial of the person wrongly accused of his crime. He is relieved when the verdict is guilty. He laughs when the police and prosecutors congratulate themselves. He is content to allow an innocent person to go to prison, to serve hard time, even to be executed.
Travis Boyette is such a man. In 1998, in the small East Texas city of Sloan, he abducted, raped, and strangled a popular high school cheerleader. He buried her body so that it would never be found, then watched in amazement as police and prosecutors arrested and convicted Donté Drumm, a local football star, and marched him off to death row.
Now nine years have passed. Travis has just been paroled in Kansas for a different crime; Donté is four days away from his execution. Travis suffers from an inoperable brain tumor. For the first time in his miserable life, he decides to do what’s right and confess.
But how can a guilty man convince lawyers, judges, and politicians that they’re about to execute an innocent man?
Winner of the 2011 Harper Lee Prize for Legal Fiction

Was a nice read. Not one of my favorites by any means. Wasn't up to the high standards of John Grisham, in my opinion. Drug in places. But for a legal read it was okay. I will read more of John Grisham. 

#Throwback Thursday

Richard loved his 'blow-ups'. Here is the front our house October 2008.

Wednesday, October 29, 2014


This is part of my 31 Day Five Minute Free Writes challenge within a challenge. I will be linking up with 31 Day Challenge at The Nester's as well as at Heading Home. For a list of all my letters you can go here.

My dear Richard:

You were not my first love! But you were my last love. I think I have told you that many times before. Well one more time won't hurt, will it. You came along at a time in my life when I wasn't really sure where my future was headed. And you helped to turn it around. I was the luckiest woman in the world,that you loved me. 

You weren't my kids 'first' dad but you were the last. And the best.  I couldn't have had a better man to help me raise them up. You were strong, firm, and caring. They were lucky to have you in their life. You were always there for them. No matter what. And you loved them as if they carried your blood in their bodies. 

You weren't my first love. But you will be my last love. And who could ask for more than that.